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Financial Suicide
Considerations Before You Get Married


Today, about 50 percent of marriages are expected to dissolve, half of all children can expect to live some time with a single parent, and 33 percent of all births are to unmarried women. Marriage as a permanent arrangement is no longer widely presumed, nor is it the only culturally accepted arrangement in which to raise children. The public consequences of this shift go far beyond societal upheaval. The backlash has generated a "Marriage Strike."

The government is most intrusive into family life when marriages fail. If you don't believe it, try getting married, having kids and then getting a divorce. If you are a non-custodial parent, government will tell you when you can see your children; whether you can pick them up after school or not, and if so, on what days; whether you can authorize medical care for your children; and how much money you must spend on your kids.

With the exception of a few states who do not recognize alimony and only permit rehabilitative support for a few years, you can expect the following: As the spouse who gets saddled with paying alimony, you can expect it to be an emotional disaster and financial suicide to which there is no "closure." The courts will retain jurisdiction over you for the rest of your life.

If you have any children and your spouse is given custody, you will probably be allowed to see them only a few days of the month, you can expect that your spouse will alienate them with vindictive allegations about your ineptitude as a parent beside being a socially unacceptable one at that.

After your marital estate [consisting of all your assets, retirement funds, properties, etc.] has been divided up with a minimum of 50% going to your spouse, you will be burdened with child support and alimony. If you stay married for anywhere between 10 - 15 years, you can expect to be supporting your ex in the style of the marriage with alimony welfare payments for the rest of your lifetime. These and many more indignities will be heaped upon you. If you don't keep up the payments in good times or bad, you can expect to be hauled into court and threatened with jail unless you comply. And in all these proceedings, you will be expected to pay not only your lawyer [if you can afford one] but your spouse's as well.

If you want to get remarried, your second spouse will be saddled with your debts to your first spouse. Your prospects for a peaceful remarriage will be doubtful. See the following victim stories on the Alimony Slaves In America Blog and share their misery. If you think this only applies to men, read the stories at the Women Paying Alimony Blog.

It's quite a dismal outlook isn't it. People getting married today need to take a better look at what the future holds for them.

Whether you are married already or contemplating marriage, you will want to explore this further. The old axiom "Act in haste, repent at leisure" never was a more true statement.

As one of the parties to a future divorce proceeding, the first thing you will want do is to protect what assets you have now....not later. Then it will be too late. What's in this book is something your Mother or Father never told you, yet is something you definitely need to know. The excellent guidebook that can help with this you is "A Spouse's Guide To Hiding Assets" which details the methods and actions needed to protect your assets from a spouse who, at divorce time, will be determined to take them from you.  For your own peace of mind you need to find out about this in order for you to avoid the "Financial Suicide" that accompanies divorce.

After you have protected your assets, you can look to the following as the next step you want to consider in your preparation for marriage.

An Ounce Of Prevention Is Worth A Pound Of Cure

You've heard this saying many times before and here is no exception. When getting married, you are entering a contract unlike any other contract. However, this is one of the most important contracts into which you will ever enter that will greatly affect your future happiness. It is not much different than a business contract only the courts have looked on it a bit different than if it was a business contract.

If you think that your marriage and any subsequent divorce is a matter that is covered by your "right to privacy" in marriage decisions, which are constitutionally guaranteed, think again. When you entered into a marriage contract, you most likely assumed that only you and your wife were the parties to the contract, well, read this article.

If you are contemplating marriage, there are some things you can do to prevent financial suicide. And alimony is guaranteed financial suicide. Forewarned is forearmed. As is good practice in business contract, you should not only agree what each of you will do in the business, but you should also prepare for the eventuality of a breakup. Planning for a breakup involves consideration of the elements involved and how both of you will treat them. Doing this before marriage is one of the biggest things you can do to prevent a disaster aside from planning for the big wedding day.

This is where a prenuptial agreement comes in. Or, if you are already married, you can consider a postnuptial agreement both of which will save you tons of attorney's fees in the event of a divorce. To find out more on the subject, read through the following:

You will also want to read up on what can possibly happen after you are married and encounter divorce proceedings where you will have to pay alimony. Unless you know someone who has experienced it, nothing you can imagine will prepare you for this traumatic experience.

Good books on the subject can be found on our site here and here.

 

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